The first mom to share her story is the mother to two adult females. One of her daughters was diagnosed with an eating disorder. Here is her story:
Challenges of raising a strong, confident daughter?
Personally my challenge was in not being fully grown myself. Not quite knowing who I was and still uncovering my own strengths and weaknesses. I wasn’t a teenage mother, but I was a young mother and grew up without a mother of my own.
I learned in my working life that it was true that women are treated differently. I was first judged on my looks and then my abilities/brains. Because of that I probably pushed my daughters to use their brains to the max. Women have to prove their brain power much more so than men.
Like all generations, I had to learn what I felt was right in my upbringing and what I wanted to change. I can honestly say, I never even thought about body issues as being something that was taught to me. But it most certainly was. Both by my father and by media. I assumed everyone tried to be as fit as possible as that’s what you’re supposed to do. I also assumed those that weren’t fit were lazy.
My daughters fight with an eating disorder was a huge awakening for me. I realized too late that I was repeating a part of my upbringing that was a bad one. Luckily the great group of therapists she had in recovery from the start told me, “don’t make this about you”. I’m not going to tell you that those words made my guilt at failing my daughter go away. But they did make me concentrate on helping her get better rather than what I could have done differently to prevent it.
Now as I’m older, she helps me as my body changes and no longer wants to look 20! What I learned in my formative years aren’t gone from my mind. What is still reinforced in the media certainly hasn’t gone away. So her strength and wisdom in her struggles help me through mine.
It’s so much more important to feel good then to look in the mirror and determine if you look good enough in others eyes.
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